For a few very hard years this word was my mantra.
The word means
-undismayed; not discouraged; not forced to abandon purpose or effort
-undiminished in courage or valor; not giving way to fear
But the truth is, I was often dismayed by everything that had taken place, and I did battle discouragement. I battled fear and doubts. I hurt and was angry, and sometimes "undaunted" sounded more like a mockery than a mantra, and I was determined to be real about all of it in these posts, thus the name, Undaunted Reality. More than that, though, I was determined to live undaunted, not because I'm so great or strong, but because my God is, and no matter what this world looks like, He is the only reality that matters.
I pray I live the reality of Him beautifully undaunted.

Friday, February 1, 2013

Dads, Your Boys Need to Hear YOU Say It

This morning a precious friend of mine shared part of his time with me. His heart was aching with the life hole left from his dad's passing.

He misses the friendship. He misses the talks. He misses the presence, but this morning, he wasn't missing what he lost. He was missing what he never received.

"I wonder if I made him proud.
I wonder if he was proud of me as a son."

I look at my friend, his generous heart, and his service to those in need, and I cannot fathom any man not being proud of such a son. I tell him that, but I know.

It doesn't matter if I tell him. He needed his dad to tell him.

So, dads, I'm telling you...

Your boys need to hear you say you are proud of them.  
Boys need their dad's approval, even grown boys.
Don't know how to tell them how you feel? Find a way.
You're the dad.
That is your job.

And no matter what he says or how old he is, your son needs you to be the dad...the dad who is proud of his son...and  tells him so.

1 comment:

  1. Girls do, too. The approval of our fathers is SO important to who we are. All the data shows that dads are even more important than moms in giving children what they need.
    But, for those dads who can't or won't our Daddy steps in and shows us His love. He is the redeemer of that hole in our life. That doesn't mean I don't miss what I long for with my earthly father, but it means that I learn that he doesn't give me my worth so he can't take it away either.